"don't just look at things from the side of the victims. Understand that bullies have their fair share of unhappiness as well. They just don't know how to let go of their anger, their pent up frustration and issues.
That's why I'm not against bullying, but i'm against letting kids with issues continue with their lives not knowing that there's another way out. Most definitely, I'm against family abuse, which is why, most kids bully others anyway."
I didn't say anything cause I didn't want to start a fight. But just seeing this makes me feel very very uncomfortable.
How many of you have been bullied. Just wondering?
Maybe most of you don't know, but the worst type of bullying is not the type where a person gets disturbed by 3 or 4 people every recess and gets his money extorted. Not the type where a little kid gets labelled by an older kid and gets laughed at.
The worst type of bullying is near universal. It happens everywhere. Its avoidance.
Nothing needs to be done you see, you just avoid the person. Well that's not so bad now isn't it.
Yeah wait till you have an entire class of people doing it.
I've been the victim many times, and I can tell you drives you into depression.
It's not like I've been put in terrible classes multiple times.
It can happen anywhere. It's not just my class, its throughout the school level.
I sincerely doubt its all down to family issues, unless you're telling me that most people have family issues and stick it to the remaining who don't, thus ensuring they have issues anyway.
Its cruelty. Its cruelty indulged in by a multitude of people. You see, in these cases, a bully can simply and truly believe that he isn't wrong. That every mocking sneer, judging look that he indulges in is okay, cause the person deserves it.
To these people, the person they're bullying can sometimes be sub-human.
And when the person is sub-human, anything is justified.
"don't just look at things from the side of the victims. Understand that bullies have their fair share of unhappiness as well. They just don't know how to let go of their anger, their pent up frustration and issues.
Having unhappiness is not an excuse, especially if you're spreading it to others anyway.
But if only bullying was only done by people who "have issues". Most people have.
Even I have.
This is why I did it. I did it cause I was afraid of falling out with the in crowd. Also cause that person was odd, and everyone thought so. Hanging out with him was uncool. Soon he became a figure to mock, someone you didn't want to be seen hanging out with.
That's why many of them did it too.
Cause they thought he was odd.
And cause they didn't want to be odd by not expressing the same view.
In the end it all comes down to issues with conformity, and insecurity issues that people have when they themselves are faced with the prospect of social isolation themselves.
If any of you know anyone who's like that and are afraid of helping let me tell you this.
The scary thing about bullying is that everyone is in it on one person.
If there's two, suddenly its a lot less oppressive. At the very least you'd have someone you know who shares your experiences and whom you can talk to.
And maybe you're thinking to yourself that heck, the person isn't worth it. I'm not risking my social status as well as innumerable hours of pain and suffering just to make him happier.
Loneliness kills.
If injustice isn't reason enough for you to act, just ask yourself, what's the worth of a life.
Don't get me wrong, not all bullying victims commit suicide, most don't, but when you start pushing at someone's emotions and his mental well-being like that, you never know when he's going to snap.
And if it does, will you be able to live with yourself.
Just think about it.
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